After 6 long years, the adoption of the most wonderful son anyone could hope for, hundreds (dare I say thousands) of shots, hormones, dr. appointments 2 hours away, 5 years of general infertility treatments and 1 year of constant invitro craziness, I am happy to finally say that we are pregnant...with twins!
Thursday, August 27, 2009
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Wednesday, August 26, 2009
Ahhhh...
I'm breathing a sigh of relief for making it to my 12th week of pregnancy. Yay me! I'm also saying "ahhhh" because I have finally given in and am rubber banding the button on my pants. That's right people, that sound you hear is me being comfortable in my jeans with the button unbuttoned.
I'm not quite ready for maternity clothes, although I am getting close. It's so funny because I am definitely showing...not just a little baby bump either. In fact, I thought maybe I was too big so I googled to see other twin baby bumps at 12 weeks, and I look right on track. I guess I am so used to seeing my friends pregnant with one baby, that I didn't realize how different my belly would look from theirs at this stage.
Anywho, so things have been going rather smoothly (*knock on wood*). Any pregnancy symptoms have still seemed to disappear - obviously excluding the earlier mention of my growing belly. I have no nausea, and my energy level feels pretty good. I'm not really retaining water, and the boobs are feeling a-ok.
I can say that I have gained a couple pounds - directed by doctor and not as easy as it sounds. You would think that someone already overweight would be able to pack them on when needed, but eating has really been a problem. Don't get me wrong, I can eat pretty much anything - no aversions here...but I can only eat a little bit at a time or else I am incredibly uncomfortable. Maybe this is because I am really short waisted and there isn't much room in there, but I seriously have to split my meals into 2 (or sometimes 3) portions and eat them over the course of several hours.
Now that we are settling in to this pregnancy we did make 2 purchases for the babies. I told Bobby that I didn't want to jinx what we were having by buying pink or blue things yet, but we saw some really cute burp cloths, and although they are blue...they could work for girls. So we bought those.
*OK, let me just say that I know some of you are probably thinking "wow, how exciting...you bought burp cloths (sarcasm)" and I realize that this doesn't seem exciting. But we are realistic people...we have had a baby and we know the things that are needed. And frankly, burp cloths have gotten darn cute since Connor was a baby, so we couldn't resist.
Now, where was I....oh, yes. Purchasing items. So the other thing that we (or actually Bobby did this by himself) bought was a cute little PINK onesie. Yes. He did. If we end up with 2 boys I am going to blame him for jinxing us. I'm ok with having 2 boys (which would bring my total to 3) but I just wanted to wait to buy gender stuff till we know for sure what we are having. So anyway, now we have this super cute, pink, U of I Vandal, onesie. So, if we end up with twin boys, then one of my lucky friends having a girl this year will end up with said super cute, pink U of I Vandal, onesie :-)
Oh, and as most of you have seen...I have finally announced this pregnancy to the whole world. Ok, maybe not the whole world, but pretty much anyone that vaguely knows me at all, now knows that we are expecting.
I have my ultrasound on Tuesday to check for possible problems with the babies. Fingers crossed that the ultrasound goes smoothly. I will update on Tuesday to fill you all in and to give my little weekly update. Pictures soon, I promise!
Wednesday, August 19, 2009
What a week!
This has been an exhausting last couple of days and to be honest I haven't even had time to think about being pregnant. And since all my symptoms have virtually disappeared I haven't really felt all that pregnant.
I did have my appointment with one of the local OB's. My appointment that I had before was just an ultrasound so this one was nice because I actually got to talk to a Dr. When I first went in the nurse said that they wanted to find the heartbeats with the Doppler. She found one right away but had trouble finding the other one. My heart started racing because it took her forever to finally find the 2nd one and when she did she said she was having a hard time keeping it. When the Dr. came in, she said let's just do an ultrasound really quick to check. Oh, darn...another ultrasound :-) So we did the ultrasound and I was so happy because both babies are still doing great. Their heartbeats are both strong and they've actually grown since Friday. (It's my 11th week, and they are each the size of large lime) Plus, it was hilarious because we realized why we weren't able to hear the 2nd hb for very long. Baby B was dancing like crazy. It actually looked like it was dancing to music. It has us all cracking up...it literally didn't stop moving during the whole ultrasound. Too funny.
I was told to take an extra folic acid, and extra iron and the expecta pill as well as my prescription prenatal vitamin. I feel like a pill popping fool because they all have to be taken at different times. I'm still showing just a little. I will be happy when I am actually looking pregnant because right now it looks like I just had one too many beers over the weekend.
I did tell the people at work that I am pregnant with twins. They were all really supportive. Hopefully this won't affect me having my job extended past Dec. If I don't have a job after Dec. I will just stay home for awhile and enjoy the end of my pregnancy...that might actually not be that bad.
Sorry this update isn't too exciting. I had some blood work this week, and in 2 weeks I will have an ultrasound to check for "markers" to see if there are any problems with the babies. My next appointment is in 1 month. I will have an ultrasound every month to check the progress on these little ones, it seems like a long time to wait but I know I am lucky because most women only have 2 or 3 ultrasounds their whole pregnancy.
I will update again in week or so. I'm probably going to announce to the whole world at 12 weeks (next Wed), so those of you that are waiting for me to finally say something don't have too much longer to wait. I'll also be posting weekly updates here and possibly a belly pictures to show my progress. So anyone interested in that can keep checking in.
Till next time....
Friday, August 14, 2009
Mixed emotions
Tuesday, August 11, 2009
What are you going to do?
I have heard this question no less than 100 times since we found out that there is possibly (and most likely) 3 babies.
I kind of find this questions hilarious. What do you mean what are we going to do? It's not like we're in high school and accidentally got pregnant. But some people ask this question with such exasperation you would think that we were in some sort of horrible predicament that needed fixed right away. We wanted to be pregnant. And we always wanted a big family, so 4 kids is ideal for us. Were we ever planning on the majority of them being born at the same time...no. But there is something so exciting about knowing we are going to have this big family. The chaos, the noise, the commotion...these are actually things that appeal to us. We love the thought of all the kids rushing in to see what they got from Santa...or crazy family road trips where everyone gets on each other's nerves, but we look back remembering it was a good trip because we all got to be together. Are 3 babies a predicament? No....3 babies are a blessing - a surprise blessing that took me awhile to get on board with, but now that I am I'm getting excited for this large family we are going to have.
So anyway, back to the "what are you going to do" question. Most of the time I am asked this, it is followed with a specific...for example, What are you going to do about:
- your job?
- childcare?
- your car?
- money?
- your house - do you have room for 3 babies?
- breastfeeding? Can you even make enough milk for 3 babies?
- leaving the house - how will you manage?
- sanity?
I think I'll address the above because they are the most commonly asked (although we have had some doozies that are much too private to even repeat on this wonderful blog)
- Job. I plan to keep working. I was thinking about staying home but health care for a family of 6 is pretty expensive and let's be totally honest here...I think I am going to need a little adult time, a little "away from the babies time"...so I am looking at doing a reduced schedule at work so I can hopefully have the best of both worlds. (that is assuming I will still have a job after Dec. 17th)
- Childcare. Well this is interesting. I thought I had this all figured out until my current childcare person just informed me that her husband got a promotion and they are moving to Pocatello in the next couple of weeks. Boo to that. Luckily, one of my neighbors is taking over my former person's business, which is actually more convenient because she is only 3 doors down, absolutely fabulous, and will continue the preschool program that Connor and the 3 other children were doing. Problem solved for Connor. The babies are getting a nanny. That's right people, we're breaking down and hiring a nanny. I just think in the end it will be easier to have them at our house and frankly it actually comes out to be a bit cheaper than childcare. Plus, this will give Connor a break from babies all the time, which I am sure he will be thanking me for.
- Your Car. I am so sad to say this...but it's time I told you all...Bobby has brought it up time and time again, and I simply can no longer ignore him. It's the "M" word. I know...I don't want to say it anymore than you want to hear it. But the reality is, a mmmmmminivan is the easiest car to get 4 car seats in and out of. It's easy to maneuver to the back seat if a baby is crying, or throws up, etc. An SUV with a third row seat just doesn't have the same convenience, trust me...I've tried looking at them all. I have at least convinced Bobby to wait to buy one until the babies are actually here, so there's still time to come up with another plan. I'm open to suggestions :-)
- Money. Who knows? We're not rich, but we're not poor either so I think the money thing will just kind of work itself out. Yes things will cost more, but we have wiggle room in our budget so I think we are going to be a-ok. Of course if this is a worry of yours and thinking about how we are going to afford this large family is keeping you up at night, then by all means, send us some money...if that will make you feel better, I will gladly accept it. Anything to ease your mind and help you sleep better.
- Our house...do we have room for 3 babies? Our house is plenty big, although if I have my way we will be adding a great room in the next couple years. Our house is slightly over 2600 square feet. This isn't huge, but it's not tiny by any means. We have 4 bedrooms right now with the possibility of 5 or 6 if we want to give up our rather large storage space or Bobby's man's room. The babies will share a room for at least 2 or 3 years. This is what all the experts say to do and who am I to argue with the experts. Luckily for us one of our extra bedrooms is fairly large so 3 cribs, an armoire, a bed for me, a changing table and enough loot for 3 babies should fit just fine.
- Breastfeeding. Yes I plan to breastfeed if it works out. Not in the traditional sense...at least I don't think so, and frankly I am not even sure how that is possible without spending every second of every day feeding someone...but I do plan to pump and pump and pump. I'm going to supplement with formula when needed. Connor was a formula baby and he is really healthy and very smart, so I'm not one of those who is against formula. This is just what feels right to me. Plus that way lots of other people can help me feed these little ones and I might actually have time to take a shower at some point.
- Leaving the house...how will you manage? Well, this is tricky and in theory I think I have it worked out. My brother knows someone who has triplets and they have graciously given us their triple stroller. Awesome! But I also think that if I always strap one to me with our baby bj.orn then I can push 2 in a double stroller (Connor can ride his bike) if we're just going for a walk. If we are out and about? I think I might need a helper. But the day I manage to make it out with all 4 kids (3 infants) you will all hear about it because I do believe that might be one of my proudest days.
- Sanity. Well, let's just say I am not sure I will make it through this with my sanity completely intact. I do know that I am married to the calmest person in the world, who doesn't freak out about very much. I think he will help me keep my sanity in check. Our lives will be crazy and chaotic but really anyone that has kids knows that time goes by so fast...before we know it these little ones will be independent toddlers and our oldest will be in school. When I think about how fast time has gone by with Connor, and then I think about these babies...I want to enjoy every second because they are only babies for a short time.
I hope that answers some of the looming questions people might have. I will of course be updating on Friday. My appointment/ultrasound is first thing in the morning, so at least I don't have to wait all day. Oh, and I think after my appointment, I will finally announce this pregnancy to work and the rest of the world (although I reserve the right to change my mind about that).
Friday, August 7, 2009
Normal is weird
I went to my meet and greet with the nurse earlier this week. She was very nice and told me that they have another women who is having triplets who is in her 7th month. Crazy. So I asked the nurse how many triplet pregnancies they have seen and she said in the 20 years since she's been here...4. So with me, that will be 5. Ok, that's not very reassuring. She did tell me after I meet with one of their Dr.'s I will be referred to the specialist, so I can see both local docs and the guy in Spokane. I asked if I could go ahead and call and make an appt with this specialist and she told me that you can't just call this guy. You have to be referred to be a patient of his. Well, isn't that hoyty toyty. So now I wait...
Oh, she did tell me that the women who is having triplets, just now had to go on modified bedrest and it looks like she will probably make it to the 36 week mark. Awesome. That gives me hope that things will go smoothly for me as well. My 36 week mark is Feb. 10th. That's my goal for these babies to arrive. I am told that most docs don't let you go past that point because there just simply isn't any more room for the little bambinos. I guess, on average, a person carrying triplets will appear to be full term at just 20 weeks. So you singleton preggos out there can feel sorry for me because when you are at the end of your pregnancy and feeling uncomfortable, just know that I will be there at 20 weeks, and I still have (hopefully) at least 16 more weeks of growing. Just call me shamu! I can still wear my clothes, but next week might be a different story - because everything about my pants fits, but the the button area is getting a little snug.
My ultrasound next week was originally scheduled for the beginning of the week at the hospital, but apparently the office ultrasound tech doesn't think they do a great job, so she is insisting that I go to her (I think she secretly just wants to see the trips, but whatever). She was able to squeeze me in next Friday at 7am. That wasn't really as soon as I was hoping, but at least there will have been enough time between ultrasounds that we should really have a good idea about the straggler.
Things have been going pretty smoothly. My nausea has almost disappeared. I only seem to have it when I wake up in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom. I just started going to the kitchen, eating a bowl of cereal, and then head back to bed. I have had some pretty bad insomnia, but even that seems to be subsiding.
My mom sent me this really great book about when you are expecting twins, triplets or more. It has awesome info. It breaks down what I should be eating: protein, grains, dairy, etc. And being the somewhat anal person that I am, I made myself a little excel chart so I can keep track of what I am eating to be sure I get enough from all the categories. Clearly I have too much time on my hands.
Ok, Here is the most up to date info:
- Sleepy, sleepy, sleepy. I have been taking a nap during my lunch hour on my little loveseat. I didn't realize what a tremendous help this was until yesterday when I didn't get to take one and literally could not keep my eyes open in the afternoon.
- Nausea is going away - hurray!
- Sciatic nerve is hurting. I was warned about this, but it is uncomfortable.
- Feel full all the time. I can only eat small portions but my stomach always feels full, even when it is growling.
- Food aversions - still depends on the day
- Cravings - none. These seemed to have gone away. Weird.
Till next time.....
Monday, August 3, 2009
oh, almost forgot...here are the pics (newest post is below this one)
Almost 9 weeks
The weirdest thing about the 9 week mark to me, is that it made me think back to when we brought Connor home after he was born...we brought him home roughly 9 weeks from when we found out that we were adopting him. It's so weird to me...9 weeks is such a short amount of time, but back then we had nothing to reference so it just seemed normal to us. 9 weeks to prepare for a baby...it would be like bringing these babies home on Wednesday...so weird. And when I look back on that time, I am so proud of Bobby and myself. We handled it pretty smoothly and it gives me hope that we will be able to handle this situation with the same amount of grace.
Anyway, I made my local doctor appt today. I am going in tomorrow at 9am to meet with a nurse and do some paperwork. This is a prelim meeting that they make everyone do. Then the receptionist told me that none of the dr.'s would be available until the 17th. Yikes! That is 2 weeks away and if they are going to refer me to a specialist in Spokane, I would like to get the ball rolling on that. So I simply explained that I am expecting triplets and waiting until the 17th would not work for me. (I hope I don't go from being referred to as a "high risk" pregnancy to a "high maintenance" pregnant person). Anyway, she said that Dr. Richards was working in a clinic on Tues. and Thurs. till noon and maybe he could stay late and see me. Then she told me she would call him and call me back.
A short while later, I did receive a phone call...from Dr. Richards himself. Nice. He was really great on the phone. Made it seem like having triplets was no big deal - I am thinking I love this man. I told him my concern about waiting till the 17th and he squeezed me in next week instead. Then he told me that they will refer me to a specialist in Spokane but that I will continue to see the Moscow dr.'s as well. I will basically see them simultaneously. There is a chance that I might be able to deliver these babies in Moscow or Pullman. Woo hoo! That was a big relief for me. But on the chance that I have a lot of complications, they want me to be familiar with a specialist in Spokane so that someone up there is familiar with us and I with them. Makes sense to me. All in all, I hung up the phone feeling about 1 million times better about this pregnancy than I had been feeling. Thank you Dr. Richards!
I have been feeling pretty good off and on lately. In fact, I had a brief amount of time with no nausea and a bunch of energy. Unfortunately I was at the store picking up a prescription and thought since I felt so good, maybe I should purchase a few things.
Ok...note to readers...do not let a pregnant (with 3 babies) person, who is hungry and feeling like she could actually eat anything, loose in a grocery store. I'm telling you people - I bought the most random s&*#! Hmmm...oh ranch dressing sounds good. With what? I don't know. Do we even need ranch dressing? Who cares...in the cart it goes. Oooooh, toaster strudels. I haven't purchased these since sophomore year in college, but suddenly I feel the need to throw them in my cart. Black beans and unsalted almonds? Sure. You can never have enough of those...cart 'em.
You get the picture.
I left there $100 poorer and sadly with my nausea returning, now nothing sounds good for dinner.
Ok, here are the most up to date symptoms:
- Nausea. Yeah, this isn't new, but it is list worthy.
- Sleepiness. Ok, I'm tired. Really, really tired.
- Starting to show a little bit. I know this because my stomach, which not normally flat anyway, now has an even more round shape and my pants are just a wee bit tight. This could still be bloat. But the dr. did say it isn't uncommon for a triplet pregnancy to start showing in the 9th week. I mean, I do have 3 babies in there and my uterus is expanding at a phenomenal rate.
- aversions: nothing specific. Truly depends on the day.
- must haves: same thing. Every day is different. Although I can only eat small amounts at a time before I become uncomfortable. Not really sure why this is happening so soon, but it is.
Ok, I will post later this week with a recap on my appt. with the nurse tomorrow. Till then...
Saturday, August 1, 2009
Holy Moly
This is a weird thing because everyone is super excited when you say you are having twins, but suddenly you say you are having triplets and there is a lot of judgement, not so much excitement. Is it scary? Yes. Are there going to be rough times ahead? Yes. If any two people can handle this kind of news, would it be Bobby and myself? Yes.
You see, we tend to do things off the norm. If there is a less than 2% chance that we would have triplets, we really should have known we would fall in that 2%. It just happens to us - everytime. We are the exception to the rule.
So, my appointment went smoothly. Two of the babies have heartbeats measuring at 164 and 167. This is perfect. These 2 also measure (from rump to crown) at 8 weeks 2 days and 8 weeks 3 days. Perfect again.
The third one...the straggler if you will...has a heartbeat at 151. This is what makes our dr. think it will in fact be a viable baby because the heartbeat should be at least 150 at this point. However, it is measuring really small at only 7 weeks 4 days. 1 whole week behind. The dr. said this indicates that there could be problems with this baby. That it might not make it, etc, etc. I asked when we would know for sure, and he told me that if it doesn't catch up in growth in the next month, then we will know that it won't make it.
So one more month of wondering what will happen. In the meantime, I am having triplets. The funny thing is, it doesn't really scare me to have the babies here. I know it should and at some point that reality will probably hit me, but Bobby and I have an amazing support system...lots of family to help. The thing that scares me is the pregnancy. This isn't really the pregnancy I had imagined. It's going to be a lot different than if I was carrying one or two and the possible complications scare the heck out of me. I'm trying to stay positive, but the "what ifs" keep creeping in. For now, I am going to try to make it through this month and when we know something more definitive about whether it is triplets or twins, I will be able to adjust a little better.
The fun thing was, at this appointment I was able to hear the heartbeats. Amazing! And I was able to see the profile of one of the babies, which was really cool. I have a picture of each of the babies and will try to post that tomorrow (I am having technical difficulties today).
Also, I have been released to my regular Ob/gyn and I am finished with my shots. YAY!!! This is great news. I still have to take my Estrace for another 10 days, but that's not too bad. I got a little packet with pregnancy info from the clinic and a very touching card from my nurse. She is the best and I am going to miss her so much. I am going to call on Monday to make my appointment at my local office. I was told that I will probably be referred to a dr. in Spokane because I am considered high risk. Just when I thought I was done driving to Spokane. Yuck!
On the bright side, my morning sickness/nausea has significantly decreased. I find that as long as I get a lot of extra sleep (we're talking a hefty 2 to 3 hour nap in the afternoon), then I don't really feel too nauseous. Still can't eat eggs. Cravings haven't been too weird. Although the other day I felt like I had to have tator tots, so I stop on my way home and get some from Ta.co.Ti.me. Well, turns out my craving was actually to have tator tops dipped in mustard, so when I took a bite of the tator tot with no mustard it just didn't do it for me and I ended up throwing them away. Ok, maybe that's a little weird. Oh, and I was told I should be consuming 600 to 900 EXTRA calories per day to make sure these babies are getting all they need. Usually I would enjoy this, but eating has become a chore, and chores just aren't fun. But I was told that I need to gain weight consistently in order for these babies to have a chance at making it to over 32 weeks. The more I gain, the more they gain. Great.
On to other things, that darn ovary is still 3 times the normal size and my uterus has been doing a little stretching lately. Which means my bathroom visits have been more frequent. My dr. said if I am feeling sore, I should be using the bathroom every hour. Are you freakin kidding me? Who has time to use the bathroom every hour? I've been trying to go as often as I can, but c'mon...I work full time, and have an almost 3 year old. Bathroom visits are a luxury to me.
I have been given the clear to move again. So I have started walking and lifting light weights. I ordered a pre-natal yoga dvd, and am excited for it to get here. If any other people have workout recommendations for pregnancy, I welcome them.
Ok, better go. I will try to post pics tomorrow. And I will post again on Monday. I have my last progesterone check - this is just to be sure that my levels are still increasing even though I am off my shots. Also, I will give a little report on when my first regular appt. will be.